"Fronting", I decided to let it go, that I didn't know how to do something that seems pretty basic to some colleagues of mine. I decided I could "figure it out" eventually. And, usually ... I can! NOT this time. So, I decided to put the breaks on, get a "for dummies" manual. and "eat" the fact that what I though would be simple isn't. Now, I find out not only am I Not-the-Only-One, but that my friends whom I assumed successfully self-discovered the skills I need, got help, too! Seems alright now. I am relieved. 'Don't feel anxious, though my impatience is still in place ... and? I think I'll go out and take in some sunshine. I was asked to be a guest speaker recently at a Coaches training event. Long story short, I had fun ... until the end, when I realized I'd said something that didn't appeal to the trainers. It was something about my not liking that insurance companies require DSM (diagnostic) labels for clients, and can supply these later to the owner of the records (i.e. the employer that pays the client's insurance bill). It's sort of a pathologizing effort; very medical-model. At any rate, I am suspicious and not a huge fan of that use of the DSM.
I think the coach trainers were thinking that this "not being a fan of pathology" when it comes to personal growth and development is a territory that only coaches occupy. Not really. Anyway, the atmosphere in the room got a bit chilly. Funny. The person who'd asked me there was thrilled by my views; but then, he wasn't seeing me as "the competition" ... which, maybe, the trainers were. Truth is, I think the best counseling is done by all brands of change agents: some of these are psychologists; some, marriage/family therapists; some MSWs; CD professionals; psychiatrists; and some, coaches. The professional label says no more about the change agent than the DSM label says about client. So ... I like that the world is a bit more complex than that! |
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